Ah, Question Time, you do know how to make a feminist rage. This time though, the boundaries have really been pushed. This evening's episode posed the question 'Was race an issue in the recent Rochdale grooming case?', in which nine men were jailed for sexually abusing young women. Although the discussion began (with a panel of four white people) talking about race, the screaming issue for me was Telegraph columnist Peter Oborne and his victim blaming.
The episode itself was, in my opinion, very triggering and infuriating to watch, so here's just a few comments from Twitter which give you an idea of what we're dealing with here:

Essentially, Peter Oborne was suggesting that by allowing their abusers to buy them a few things the victims and dressing a certain way the young women were in some way "asking for it".
It's staggering that we still need to put forward an argument to explain why this is both wrong and dangerous, but until people stop victim blaming we must continue to do so. Possibly complimented by giving victim blamers a swift punch to the mouth from which they blurt such inane bullshit.
Why Victim Blaming Is Wrong.
It goes without saying that no person wants to be raped, sexually abused or assaulted. It is one of the most damaging things a mind can go through, and can have lifelong repercussions on a person's mental health and relationships. Obviously the reason for this is that IT'S NOT CONSENSUAL. When a person is raped or abused their ability to choose is taken away from them, either because somebody goes against their wishes or because they're in a vulnerable position and unable to make an informed decision.
Victim blaming brings up the issue of "implied consent", as if by wearing a short skirt, accepting gifts or even going back to their attacker's house the victim is subliminally agreeing to have sex with someone without even knowing it themselves. It also pedals the belief that by modifying dress or behaviour a person can avoid being raped. Which, as any intelligent person should be well aware of, is completely ludicrous.
Why Victim Blaming Is Dangerous.
Victim blaming teaches that victims could stop rape or assault if they really wanted to. Imagine if someone suggested this to you shortly after you'd just experienced one of the most horrific and scarring incidents of your life. It wouldn't exactly inspire you to tell others about your experience so you could seek the support you vitally needed. Putting blame on the victim makes it more difficult for already vulnerable people to find support that would help them to slowly overcome and move on from what has happened, meaning the far-reaching consequences will inevitably be much greater.
It also makes rape, especially "date rape" - a term used by people that think that any rape that isn't "knife-to-your-throat-in-a-back-alley-rape" doesn't count - more acceptable because it blurs the lines on what is consent and what isn't. It allows attackers to justify their actions, both to themselves and to others, with excuses such as "she was flirting with me" or "she was dressing provocatively and I couldn't help myself". This is not only damaging to victims, but also to people who haven't been raped but feel the need to constantly check themselves because they fear an attack that can only be prevented by a potential perpatrator - undeniably damaging.
What Oborne did tonight was contribute to rape culture. He used the mainstream media to air his misogynist views, in doing so potentially fostering the view that rape is some sort of two-way street. It's not, it never will be.
/late night blogs lead to spelling and grammar errors, which will be checked when I get a minute and some sleep!
